Women and men can be attractive no matter their weight.
I am a size 6. I am considered skinny and small to my friends. My weight is not the ideal one for me. I’m trying to change that. I don’t like how I look. However, that doesn’t make it okay for someone to judge me or make rude comments about my size. I’m small. Some of my friends are my size. Some are not. No one has the right to judge anyone for their weight or size clothes they wear.
There may be a reason for someone being the size they are. You do not know everything about everyone. There is no good reason to judge a man or a woman for their weight. Learn their story first before you place judgment. It’s not easy to be a size 4 in a world where you are shamed for your size, no matter what that may be. The world is cruel.
That needs to change.
If you are a size 4, 2, or 0 in this world, you are not allowed to comment on something you do not like about your body without someone telling you to be grateful. If you are a bigger girl, you have to deal with rude and unnecessary comments on your figure when you thought you looked cute. You didn’t ask for the hate you get. Bigger girls are asked to cover up when they are perfectly fine. They are underrepresented in the modeling industry. Skinny girls are glamorized as though they don’t have issues. None of this is the right thing to do or say. You should always love yourself no matter what the world thinks of you.
The world is hateful.
In this world, fat shaming is a real thing. Girls that are bigger are shamed for it, and they are told to lose weight to make themselves more appealing. That is wrong. Girls are that smaller are told to eat because a man does not want a twig. Sometimes, but not all the time, it is a bigger girl saying it because someone has done something like that to her. That does not make it right.
Girls and boys are amazing no matter their size or weight.
A girl that is a size 0 is told that she is too skinny. The world says that she needs to change that. No one asks if she is happy with her size. Some skinny girls can’t gain weight and want to. Some skinny girls are perfectly happy how they are. No one seems to care if they are happy with themselves anymore.
There are bigger girls that want to lose weight and simply can’t. How do they feel when a stranger tells them to lose weight when that’s all they want? No one asks them how they feel. There are some girls that were skinny, and they wanted to gain weight and did so. They are happy with themselves. The world says they are too big. That is not fair.
See if they are happy before you try and tear down someone’s self-esteem. Try and remember that some people spend years working on loving themselves. Do not be that person that makes them go back to square one all over again. Girls need to know that they can be any size they want as long as they are okay with themselves. The world is so wrapped up in likes that we forget to like ourselves first. Before you tell that girl to lose weight, gain weight, or body shame her, ask her if she is happy with herself. All that matter is that you are happy with yourself.
The world’s thoughts do not matter.
How you see yourself and think of yourself matters. It’s summertime. Do you want a bikini body? Go to the store, buy a bikini, and put it on. Now you have a bikini boy, and no one can take that from you. Beauty is not one size. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and no one has the right to take that away from someone no matter the reasoning. Beauty does not depend on the person’s size. Men and women are both attractive no matter what that scale has to say. Put the scale down. Learn to love yourself for who you are inside. Love yourself because you are a great human being. Learn that the mirror can lie to you. Throw away the scale because beauty is not a number. Know that beauty comes from inside you.
Men are victims of body shaming too.
Men are told that they should look muscular with a tan along with a nice beard every once in a while. They are told that they need to look a certain way to get the girl. Girls take off their glasses, put on a dress with heels, and then she puts on a lot of makeup to get the man. That is how makeovers work for women in movies. Men have to go to the gym, get better clothes, obtain more muscles, and lose their nerdy glasses in favor of contacts if they want the girl. Movies are unrealistic.
Why is it that men have to change how they dress and their lifestyle to get the girl? Girls have to do a total makeover to win the heart of the boy. Men have to change more than just their clothes to grab the heart of the girl.